I really should be asleep, but I have been engaged in a back and forth with Mr. "Autumn" Sandeen," on Twitter where he has tried to justify causing my daughter some serious emotional stress by invading her privacy. And in the middle of his "pretending" to be sorry, he posted a link to the latest garbage from Mr. "Cristan" Williams.
Someone, it is still not completely clear who, went on an obsessive expedition to dig up some dirt on me. They managed to uncover a journal that my daughter had online almost ten years ago, during a time when she and I were estranged. I am not going to violate either of our privacy, except to say that the primary source of the break in our relationship had little to do with my being transsexual, and far more to do with some very personal matters that, well, are not anyone else's business. Nothing I am ashamed of, and in the end, the matter was resolved, and we are very close.
And I should note, this says a lot about Mr. Williams. This person, who really is clueless about how he comes across, again, has no qualms about invading my daughter's privacy simply so he can create a distraction from the truth about his lies and absurd rants that I have exposed. My daughter was very disturbed by what was done today, well now yesterday. For Mr. Williams, women are not a group he actually has anything in common with, just a nuisance to be swept aside in his pursuit of a goal.
During the time she wrote that we were not communicating, she wrote some things that were meaningful to her, but are also not very kind to me. There is truth there, but not what Mr. Williams is trying to add to it. Simply put, what she wrote is the portrait of a true transsexual at the breaking point. I had struggled for years, in denial about being transsexual. Yes, we all hear those heartrending stories about the "transgender" person who worked for 20, 30 years in a highly successful career as a man, before finally, either during a mid-life crisis, or worse, at retirement, "finally" (i.e. suddenly), after years of being a closeted crossdresser, realizes (okay, let's be honest...no longer gets the same thrill from his little hobby) that he is a woman, and transitions. Yeah, I've heard it over and over....
It's true, my ex was the breadwinner. I was, in effect, a housekeeper. I stayed at home, and kept house, cooked,cleaned, and such. It worked. Yes, I had trouble keeping a job. I was a miserable person. I wasn't alway that great with money. Not something I am proud of. I guess I could have gone a different route, and drowned my sorrows in substance abuse, but that always seemed a bit absurd to me. I spent money on books, and technology to a large degree. I have always been a bit of a geek.
And yes, there was some abuse. It went both ways. I am not happy about it, but again, I felt trapped. I was trying to be something I wasn't, and I acted the way I had seen my father act. Not something I am proud of. And yes, I could be rather rigid. I felt like I couldn't have what I really needed (I had been convinced by bad information for years that transition was not possible for me) and I guess I expected everyone to be as miserable as I was. Also, I wanted to protect my daughter from some of the mistakes I made, and unfortunately she made similar ones. Again, I am going to respect her privacy and say no more.
So, what we have here, is Mr. Williams thinking he has found his ultimate prize. Not that he cares... He has something he can build a whole set of lies out of, and he is going for it with all he's got. He also links to a post, which is by the person I rather strongly suspect is the source of the snippet from my daughter's journal, where said person proceeds to prove, once again, that there are lies, damn lies, statistics, and statistics in the hands of a vicious liar. Said kook proceeds to take a few facts, and creates some pretty big lies.
Did I have a number of email addresses? Yes. Was this part of some nefarious plot? Nope. I had accounts on Compuserve, AOL, Earthlink, and Genie (which he seems to have missed). I also was on several BBSs, including Fidonet, and the Matrix (a local BBS at the time that was one of the first to offer real email). Two of those addresses were with Bellsouth. They changed the format. One seems to be the same one twice, a couple are not even me, and the rest? Well, back in those days, ISPs were not always reliable, and if you found the one you were using was not very good, you switched. You know, back in the day, we did not have Gmail, or such. Ironically, today, I have several email addresses. Two primary ones, and some others that I use less often.
And no, I did not pretend to be a "young boy hacker." I never lied about my age, or pretended to be anything I was not. But this is the pattern. Make something up, throw it out, and move on quickly in the hopes that the reader doesn't think too much. Like the bit about AIDS. What I pointed out was, there were some cases that doctors could not figure out. In some of them, they saved tissue, and after AIDS was discovered, they went back and found the virus in the tissue. Patient died with the same symptoms, and had the virus present. Was AIDS prevalent back then? Clearly not. But there were very rare cases. A right wing conspiracy theory? Huh? Seriously...more like a geeky fact I came across, but twist it out of shape, and you have something you can run with...
Did I discuss my faith on a cyberpunk group? Yes, but if you go back and take a look at the thread, I did not start the discussion...I just joined in to something that others had already started, and was
And finally...did I post a huge number of messages on Usenet? Well, yes....and no. Again, lies, damn lies, statistics, and statistics in the hands of a vicious liar. Back in the day, messages were often crossposted to numerous groups. Responding to one message might result in it appearing, at least to Google's statistics, that you had post two, three, four, a dozen... So, yes, in one sense I posted a lot of messages. In another, I posted considerable less. Yes, I was prolific, but not as prolific as someone would have you believe.
Oh, and I saw the supposed claims about Nicky. To be honest, they looked kind of bogus to me. But I will leave that for him to address.
How can you tell Mr. Williams is lying? Well, whenever he posts, tweets, or opens his mouth...chances are good he is.