In yet another attempt to avoid reality, Mr. "Autumn" Sandeen revisits a question he asked in an article in 2009. The Right Way To Be LGB Or T? Let's get past the first part quickly. Being lesbian, gay, or bisexual is an objective state. You either are, or you are not. If you believe they are not a choice, then the question is even more ignorant with regards to those three states.
Transgender, of course, is an identity that is a choice. The right way to be transgender is simply to say, "I am transgender." And suddenly you are.
Transsexual, which is what Sandeen is not, is also not a choice. Again, you either are, or you are not. The real issue is, a lot of people want to lie, and claim to be transsexual, when they clearly are not. Just as more than a few men, like Sandeen, want to lie, and claim to be women when they clearly are not.
Which brings us to a simple truth...
There is no single right way to be L, G, B, or T...or, transsexual or a woman for that matter. But there is a very large number of ways to not be transsexual or a woman. And at the top of that list is "Avoiding reality." And Sandeen and his ilk engage in that one all the time.