Many of you have heard the myth that dating a transgender woman if you are a heterosexual male will somehow turn you gay. This has to be the most ridiculous type of rationale that I have heard of thus far.Okay, you cannot really turn someone gay. Granted, under certain circumstances, men who would otherwise not do so, may engage in homosexual behavior (the classic example is men who are incarcerated) but upon release they generally return to heterosexual practices. But…but then Mr. Spicer launches into this bit of absurdity….
Our sexual orientation does not change because of who we date, we date someone because of our sexual orientation. You can make love to a body but you can only date an actual person, it's the person inside you eventually fall in love with(if there is any kind of real love there) and a transwomans spirit is a woman!Okay, keep that first sentence in mind…it is the petard this idiot will be hoist be, but let's look at that second part. There is so much wrong here. But for the moment, let's look at the final assertion…"transwomans (sic) spirit is a woman!" Nope. A "transwoman's" spirit is not a woman. If it was, she would not be a "transwoman," which is an oxymoron, but would just a woman…which is anathema to so-called "transwomen" who cling to their manhood with a tenacity that puts a barnacle clinging to a boat to shame….
But, let's consider the part where Mr. Spicer really goes off the deep end…
Men who are attracted to transgender women are not automatically gay in any way shape or form. That is not to say that gay men cannot be attracted to transgender women, but the attraction itself does not change their orientation. If you are a heterosexual man the chances are that you are attracted to a transwoman because of her femininity, her personality and her spirit. There are fetishists of course, but they are attracted to a fetish and not the actual transwoman that stands before them. Using someone as an object is not considered dating them and does not come from any place of respect. This article is only concerned with men who actually want to date transgender women regardless of their surgical status and not treat her like an object. There is a difference between a "chaser" and having an actual interest in dating transgender women.Okay, it is pretty much unheard of for a straight man to actually engage in a physical relationship with a "transwoman." Likewise, if you are a pre-op, once a guy finds out you are physically male, the best you can hope for is that he doesn't totally freak out and become violent. The relationship will probably end, at least with regards to any hope of romance, and you will end up broken hearted. If you are seriously surgically tracked, you have two choices…date men who claim to be straight (but clearly aren't) or be celibate. What they claim here is delusional crap. It is simply believing the lies of men who are either lying to themselves or to everyone else. If a guy is attracted to you, and you are physically a male, then that man is homosexual. He may deny being such, but he is. End of story. He doesn't give one whit about your spirit, your femininity, or your personality. He simply fetishizes "chick with dicks." I've met my share, and I found the relationships very unsatisfactory. He may pretend to "not treat you like an object," but if you are physically male, he is almost certainly going to. And chances are, he will drop you like a rock if you actually do have surgery. Shoot, I dated one guy who was a very wealth contractor. He lived in what some would call a "MacMansion," had a pool and a hot tub, and drove a Jag. I'm not a gold digger, but I am also not stupid…but the relationship ended quickly when he said "Don't have surgery…"
Yes, for a while, I was a bit naive, and actually believe the sort of fairy tale Mr. Spicer is spewing here. After learning what guys meant when they asked if I was "functional" (NO! I have been on hormones for a while, and even if I was, what part of "I'm a woman," do you not understand?) I realized that most of these guys were not straight, and were pretty screwed up to boot.
Mr. Spicer ends with this bit of comedy…
Men who date transgender women are heterosexual men dating women, period. Simply because she is a different "type" of woman makes no difference to this writer. There are men who like French women, does that make them french? Simply because a man is attracted to a "type" of woman will not change his sexual orientation any more than it could change his nationality. The myth that dating a transgender woman "makes you gay" is ridiculous, damaging and causes the men who want to date us a great deal of shame. Transwomen lose out on dating and finding love because of this and that is just a damn shame.Sorry, but no. Heterosexual men don't want women with penises, and they certainly don't want to be topped by one. There is only one kind of "woman" and men who date "transgender" women, as well as men who are attracted to pre-ops and so-called "non-ops" (a misnomer…if you are not going to have surgery, you are not a transsexual, so there is no need for that qualifier) are not heterosexual, they are perverts who fetishize the idea of a woman with a penis. And if you think otherwise, you are lying to yourself, and very possibly putting yourself in serious danger, looking for a guy who doesn't even exist.