This Would Be Funny If It Were Not So Infuriating

Okay, I just saw a post on Transadvocate where Dana Taylor has decided to join the transgender side.  Now, it is, of course, one's right to choose how one views the world, and who one wishes to align oneself with.  For me to say otherwise would be hypocrisy.

But when I read the reason, "The Cotton Ceiling" I had to do a bit of checking.  I knew it had something to do with the whole rad fem versus trans kerfuffle.  But I was not sure of the details.

Here is what I found...

“…the Cotton Ceiling – with reference to knickers – is the term parts of the trans community have inventively adopted for the way that, however theoretically accepting of trans people a lot of progressives may be, when it comes to actually having sex with us, they vote with their …um…feet.”

In other words, it is about complaining because someone is exercising their basic human right to choose who, and who not, to have sex with.  Now, let me be clear on several things here.  Since I completed my transition, I have had sex with several men, none of whom knew my history.  It was none of their business.  Unlike the transgender crowd, I have no need to reveal my medical history in order to get my jollies.  Had someone known, and decided to decline, I might have had my feelings hurt, but I would have seen it as their right to make that decision.  Just as it is my right to decide, for example, if I want to date someone who is an FTM.  I have done so, but I don't know that I would always make that choice.  I had one post op friend who was almost stalked by a rather obnoxious FTM.  She did not want to date him, but for a while, he was almost comical in his pursuit of her... almost, but more creepy than funny.

But according to the "cotton ceiling" crowd, lesbians should be ashamed of making a choice that it is their right to make.  Taken to its logical extreme, and I have actually seen this done, straight men should have no right to turn down a "trans woman," in other words, quite possibly, a dude in a dress, who wants to go to be with him.  Now, I had a few dates before surgery and on occasion the guy did not know when we first met. I alway was careful how I revealed my, uh, situation in order to avoid any violence.  I don't believe such violence is warranted, nor do I believe the trans panic defense should be allowed.  I also think pre-op transsexuals as well as transgender men, should exercise caution to avoid being injured or worse, murdered.  But this cotton ceiling crap is just creepy.  If you feel the need to broadcast your history, people have a right to take it into consideration when deciding if they want you as a sexual partner.  There is a word for trying to deny someone the right to make a decision based on that knowledge.  It is called rape.  If a woman does not want to have sex with you because she does not believe you are an appropriate partner, whether that woman is of trans history or not (and I have known of trans women, who identified as lesbian, who also did not want to have sex with transgender men, but you insist they do not have that right, then hey Bro' you are proving, you da man!

If anyone wants a good example of the sort of behavior that lies behind my statement that I don't "misgender" transgender men, this is one of the best....  

I Also Wanted To Respond to Mr. Williams

I wanted to respond to Mr. "Cristan" Williams bit of drivel...  I mean, while he is welcome to come and comment here, his blog is heavily censored...  He posted a comment to Mr. Sandeen's post...

It’s a shame that JJ is content to spend so much time stalking and harassing people like the huge internet creep (with a misgendering fetish) she’s become. Had she instead applied that drive to actual research, she could have added to the world’s knowledge. Instead, she seems obsessed with negative attention and the price she’s paid is that her opinion doesn’t get to count… Which is a shame because it’s painfully obvious to practically everyone that she needs it to count so badly. She’s relegated herself to being a simple internet troll – something any child can do. She has a great command of the English language and she’s tenacious; she could have done something productive with that.

Well. let's see...  First off, I have to giggle at the childish way that Mr. Williams starts with name calling, but then tries to slide over to sounding almost reasonable...  I guess by "actual research" he means stuff like claiming that Janice Raymond, who is not a person I really like having to defend, actually caused the death pf 50,000 transsexuals.  Yeah, made up numbers like that, unsupported by evidence...is his idea of "solid research."  Of course, in the egotistical mind of Mr. Williams, anything that challenges his world view can simply be dismissed.  This is a man who lacks a shred of intellectual integrity.  I love how he tries, in a classic bit of verbal slight of hand, to simply dismiss what I say.  A bit of argumentum ad ignorantiam.  He just sort of asserts things without evidence as though they are fact.  Oh, I have no doubt that Mr. Williams desperately wants to believe that what I say doesn't matter, but if it didn't, he would not have wasted time trying to dismiss it.

Oh, and to repeat, I don't "misgender"... First off, there is no such word outside of the argot of the transgender subculture.  Secondly, if I honestly, sincerely believe that someone's "gender" that is the wiring of their brain, is male, I will call them male...and vice versa.  It is not based on whether or not I agree with their politics, but on how they actually come across.  It is simply absurd to demand that people suspend reality in order to comply with some imaginary standard of political correctness.  When you have a man, acting like a bad parody of a woman, but are forced by some imaginary social convention to refer to him as "her" and "she," something is wrong.  I simply refuse to play along and pander to deception or delusions because someone wants to "deconstruct gender."

For about 20 years now, she’s wasted her time targeting people who’re actually doing something…

 ROTFL!  Yes, actually doing something...wrong.  Another argumentum ad ignorantiam.  I hope to stop an effort to establish rights based on offensive and harmful behavior. A man wearing a dress might be offensive, but it is not harmful.  A man forcing his way into women's space and demanding the right to expose his penis, because it is really a "big 'ol clit" is offensive, and harmful.  You want to play dress up?  Fine.  You want to parade around naked in women's spaces, sorry, but well, there's an app for that...it's called pepper spray.

[I will be enjoying the fact that I got under Williams skin]

I will admit, I do enjoy taking down a pompous pseudo-intellectual fool.  And yes, the Internet is quite full of them...

She obviously feels good when she gets one of her targets to respond. I don’t think that she gets that most folk view her behavior as just being sad. How many hours has she spent over the past decade making herself into an irrelevant creepy troll?
When I or others respond, it’s because we all have within us the need to swat a fly. She’s mistaking annoyance with interest. That she’s so willingly traded her talents for such a pathetic substitution for interest and actual engagement is just… well, sad. When her name is mentioned on the internet, people just roll their eyes and shake their heads. I can hear her now telling herself that she doesn’t care what other people think while planning her next humdinger of a response thinking it will really put her target in their place.

 Actually, I feel good when I get someone to think.  People like Mr. Williams, are simply a source amusement.  As he leaps from argumentum ad hominem, to petitio principi (i.e. begging the question), to yet another non sequitur, followed by a some post hoc ergo propter hoc before throwing in a bit of bandwagoning (assuming everyone agrees), some card stacking (selective facts), before wrapping it all up in false generalizations, it is sort of like watching a cat chasing the dot from a laser pointer.  Amusing for a while, but you do kind of have a guilty laugh when they misjudge and wind up looking foolish...though they will always pretend they don't.

She doesn’t grasp that I feel sadness, not anger, when someone sends me a link to see what she’s up to. Such waste of talent and such a pale imitation of discourse. How many hours do you think she’s spent involved in her trolling drama? 100? 1000? 2000? More? How many words do you think she’s written while caught up in her drama over the past 10 or 15 years? How many books could that have been?
Such a pathetic damn waste.

Yes, such lofty words, but again, not at all backed up by facts.  Yes, Mr. Williams is so sad...  So, he resorts to an argumentum ad hominem to cheer himself up.  And when he imagines he has scored some point, his self-congratulatory "Booyah!" is just a desperate attempt to hide the heartbreak. All that desperate, win at all costs, intellectual dishonesty coupled with egotistical self-congratulatory aggrandizement merely masks the tears he sheds....

Some might actually believe him... Then again, some people think the earth is flat.  I may mock Mr. Williams, but I mock him with facts.  He mocks with innuendo and insults.  That says more than all his clever attempts to deceive.

Hoist by Her Own Petard

Let me preface this by saying that I personally have no problem with same-sex marriages, though I do believe it is up to individual states to decide the issue, and I believe that unless a state approves of such a marriage, one should be bound by the law in a given state.  That said, this is an interesting turn of events in a story that I have written on before.

"Thomas" Beatie, the infamous "pregnant man" has been told that she cannot divorce her wife of nine years because the judge cannot determine that they were married to begin with.  Now, it should be noted that the judge did not base the ruling on it being a same sex marriage, just that Beatie, who kept his reproductive organs intact, and who has born children will claiming to be a man, failed to establish that she was a transsexual man at the time of the marriage.  Well, DUH!!!!!

Oh, and the worst part...she wants to compete to get pregnant with her new girlfriend, commenting that perhaps both will be pregnant at the same time...

Here is a link to the story.

The Comic Stylings of Mr. "Autumn" Sandeen...

Yes, once again, the clown prince of transgender silliness has posted another hilarious bit of humor.  Unintentionally, of course.  "Autumn" Sandeen's latest, can be found at the Huffington Post, which has, of late, become a major source of transgender propaganda.  Entitled, "Violating Sex And Gender Norms While Traveling," it contains some of Mr. Sandeen's classic jokes, as well as some new material that will have you rolling on the floor, convulsed with laughter.

He starts off with his classic joke of saying, "I'm a transsexual who also identifies as transgender."  Now, that's a real knee-slapper right there.  I mean, seriously, Sandeen?  A transsexual?  Seriously, how does he make this stuff up?  Claiming one is a transsexual while writing an article on violating sex and gender norms is classic absurdist humor.  The whole point of being a transsexual is to conform one's sex to one's innate gender, and to fit within society's norms.  Granted, he does add that bit about being a transgender, but in order to really fit what he describes, a transsexual would have to act in accordance with their birth sex.  In fact, what a transsexual does, when he/she transitions, is to stop violating sex and gender norms.  But hey, this is Mr. Sandeen, so we have to expect truly absurd, off the wall silliness.

Next up, Mr. Sandeen delights us with another of his classic lines, "Let me begin by saying that I "pass" as female in almost all settings -- that's including in bathrooms."  Mr. Sandeen, as well all know, does not "pass" at all.  That is, there is no more chance of him fooling anyone into believing he is anything more than a silly man in a dress, than there is of any other crossdressing comedian, say "Benny Hill," or "MIlton Berle" to name a couple of classics.  To add to the hilariousness of that claim, Mr. Sandeen does not offer his readers a clear recent photo of him, so they can judge the veracity of such a claim.  That is a shame, as I am sure they would love to compare it to him in typical attire that looks nothing like what a woman his age would actually wear.  Better yet, would be a video, so they could get the full effect of him flouncing about in his unique parodying of a woman.  He does, however provide  a picture of him being dragged away in his female Navy uniform that does not really show his face very well, and this older picture of him.  I apologize in advance if it leave any readers with nightmares.  

The new humor includes this rather bizarre bit:

When going through a body scanner I actually left seven cents in my right front pocket. So, the TSA officer who was at the scanner station said I was going to be given a full body search. I was taken to a separate room with two female TSA officers. Before they began the search, I disclosed that I was transgender and that they may feel something that wasn't normally expected by to be on a female body when they touched my crotch. They asked me then if I wanted male officers to conduct the search, and I said no: I said I'd prefer female officers to do the search. I was pleasant and smiling when they did the search, and they were pleasant in return.

All joking aside, I honestly feel sorry for the two female officers who were subjected to Sandeen's perversity.  I can just imagine his excitement at the idea of a couple of women being forced to grope him.  I bet he really loved getting to tell him about the "special surprise" waiting for them in his crotch.  Had I ever had such an experience, I would not have been all smiles.  I would have been completely mortified, and would have had the decency to ask them if they would be comfortable performing the search.  But for a freak like Sandeen, it was a "teaching moment."  Yes, he got to leave them with a false impression of what a transsexual really is, as I am sure he emphasized the lie that he is a transsexual.

Thankfully, on the occasions I flew before I completed my transition, I never faced such a situation.  I did have my purse searched once, because a handful of Hershey's Miniatures showed up on the X-ray, and looked like they might be explosives.  The officer who conducted the search and I had a good laugh over that.  But, even though it was not a primary reason, never having to worry about such a mortifying experience played a very small roll in my need for surgery.   I imagine for Mr. Sandeen, he would not want to miss out on future teaching experiences....

Now There is No Question...

Many have raised questions about "Autumn" Sandeen's rather bizarre "Wiener Story of the Day" that occasionally appears in his "This and That" posts.  What was the significance of this?  Was Mr. Sandeen just a major fan of hot dogs, or was this meant as some sort of perverse pun?  It seemed even more of a question when Mr. Sandeen falsely claimed that he was having "genital reconstruction surgery."  He is having a castration, and is becoming a male eunuch, not a female.


Well, now there is no question.  In a new post, any question is removed.  Here is what Mr. Sandeen has to say about wiener's this time:

Our Wiener Story Of The Day: the Arizona Republic's Police urge holster use after man shoots his own penis:
As Chandler residents Joshua Seto, 27, and his fiancée, Cara Christopher, walked over to a Fry's Food Store for refreshments, he tried securing her pink handgun in the front waistband of his pants.

The gun fired, striking Seto's penis and continuing through his left thigh. The bleeding started immediately and was heavy, according to police dispatch recordings released Sunday.

"He is still conscious, there is just a lot of blood," Christopher , 26, told 9-1-1 operators and dispatchers.

One operator told Christopher to apply direct pressure to the wound with a dry towel or T-shirt, but to avoid looking at the wound...

Yes, and now we know what Mr. Sandeen means when he says, "As always, 'The weenie tempts you!' "

Sandeen Proves Himself a Bigot

One has to hand it to "Autumn" Sandeen, the man just doesn't have good judgement.  His latest post really shows him for what he is...a "classist, sexist, racist, lookist, and otherwise judgmental and xenophobic" bigot.  He has posted a video called The People of Walmart in a bizarre attempt to attack what he terms the "Homophobia Industrial Complex."  


The bizarre thing is, some of the people in the video appear to be rather outrageous transgender types.  Sandeen is trying to attack people who oppose the idea of some man in a dress teaching kindergarten.  I assume he is thinking about the controversy in Oakland where a group of extremist transgender activists were allowed to attempt to indoctrinate a first grade class on the deconstruction of gender.


I know it probably seems that I pick on Mr. Sandeen a lot, but he invites it.  He posts garbage like this, and then seems amazed that even some of his supporters are outraged. 


UPDATE:


Since I first posted this, the comments on Mr. Sandeen's blog have been almost universally negative.  And, in a somewhat surprising move, Suzan Cooke, who had previously, and rather surprisingly, embraced him as a friend has now turned on Mr. Sandeen due to the attack on people who shop at Walmart, and his column yesterday where he presumed to advise Janet Mock.


YET ANOTHER UPDATE:


Well, it is the Monday after Sandeen's bigotry was posted on Saturday.  He is finally back from wherever he was hiding, and he has issued what will have to pass for his apology.  He claims he had no idea that the video might be offensive and that the saw it as celebrating "diversity."  Now, given that this is pretty much lifted from one of the few comments that did not condemn him for posting that piece of garbage, it is pretty obvious that he was waiting for someone to offer him something he could use to bail himself out.  I don't, for one nanosecond, believe that Sandeen did not see that video for what it was, an attack on people that was, as Pam Spaulding put it, "classism, sexism, racism, and fatphobia, to name a few."  Of course, it appears that Spaulding is not going to take Mr. Sandeen to the woodshed.  No surprise....

A Horrible Episode

Last night's Family Guy was a terrible episode that was highly inaccurate, and very insulting to transsexuals. 

In the episode, Glen Quagmire's father,Dan, a decorated Naval officer, appears to be gay.  When Glen confronts his father, he confesses that he is not gay, he is a woman trapped in a man's body.  This is followed by several of the characters expressing opinions that basically came down to "what's the difference?"  There are also the usual references to "she/males" and such. This was not really refuted.

Then, Dan, who has so far appeared as a male, pops off to the hospital where he has a sex change.  Never mind that this is absurd.  One does not just go in, and come out looking like a woman.  No hormones, no RLT, just off to the OR, and he is a woman.  This is followed by playing Glen's confusion of pronouns for laughs, as Glen, now Ida, walks out of the OR, dressed as a female, with quite a nice figure, and a full head of long hair.  The doctor having made it sound like "he" had died during surgery, announces that "she" is doing quite well.  I can assure you, one does not walk out after such surgery.  I was not allowed out of bed for most of a week.

Then Ida visits Peter and family, again with another round of bad jokes.  Then Glen and his father fight and Ida goes to a hotel.  Finally, Brian who has been away at a web contend seminar, returns stopping at a local hotel for a drink. There he meets Ida, who he falls for.  Then, returning home, he talks to Stewie, telling him about having met the perfect woman.  Stewie then tells him about Quagmire's father. More bad jokes ensue, including Stewie talking about how it "must be a train wreck down there."   Brian is making the usual bad jokes until he discovers that Dan is now Ida.  He begins a rather prolonged round of vomiting.  Then Brian makes a comment about how when "they move to a new neighborhood they have to notify everyone, that's how it works." 

Ida comes back to Glen's house, and in about the only decent part of the show, they make up.  There is really not enough here to offset the bad that this show has featured.  Ida, who it had previously been suggested, is extremely selfish, pretty much apologizes and excuses Glen's boorish behavior.  Then Glen, while hugging Ida, apparently has an erection, saying it can't tell the difference.  Then Ida tells Glen about meeting Brian.  Glen does not take the news well.

The show ends with Glen brutally beating Brian, who has been in shower, scrubbing furiously as though he feels the need to wash away something horrible.   He tells Brian that he will blow his head off if he catches him near his house, and after he finishes, tells him to just lie there and die.  The final scene has Quagmire leaving, and Brian at the door saying to him, "I f**ked your father!" The actual word is bleeped out, but it is obvious what was said.

Why such an episode was done, and why this subject was treated so badly, will no doubt be debated online.  Already, Bil Browning at Bilerico has written a rather self-righteous article condemning it. Browning, who is gay, really does not have the standing to speak for the transsexual community.  I strongly suspect, as word gets out, that other transgender sites will express similar outrage.  And all of them will miss the point.

The reason for such ignorance is simple.  This is how transgender people present themselves.  And they insist on linking their confusion to those who are truly transsexual.  How many men, after long successful military careers, suddenly announce they are really women?  How many seek to associate gay and transgender?  How many transgender types imply that we are really still men?  As I say, the truth will be lost on them.  Especially the fact that this episode insulted transsexuals specifically, and that most of them have no business saying anything at all.

I've Got to Ask....

What is the deal with "Autumn" Sandeen and "weiners?" I mean, several times a week, Mr. Sandeen does an article he calls "This and That," and everyone of them has his "Wiener story of the day." Some of them seem to be pretty boring stuff that he digs up to fit the theme, while others seem to play off of the sexual innuendo that one can derive from the subject.

Now, Mr. Sandeen claims to be a "lesbian," so I would not think that he has any intererest in male genitalia as, shall we say, a "consumer." So, again, what is the deal?

I suspect this is just some immature humor on the part of an autogynephile who is getting all giggly, and perhaps a bit nervous at the idea of actually giving up a certain body part. In any case, it is a rather bizarre thing, but not really that surprising. I remember one author taking delight in his fellow "transgender" hosting a weiner roast right before his surgery. A truly sick joke that only a man who is making something of a mistake might find joy in.