Here are the examples of "cisgender privilege" that are alleged, and why they are so absurd:
1. Not having to face discrimination when going to bureaucratic offices because your gender identity doesn’t not match the sex marker on your id.
You know, one of the first hurdles a transsexual has to face is chaining paperwork. Nobody claims it is fun, and yes, I was rather nervous, but the people I dealt with were professional about their job, and they simply followed the rules. Now, for the first three years of my transition I was stuck with a driver's license that said 'M' because Alabama will not change the sex marker until you have had the surgery. In that time, I had maybe two people notice it. I was in a couple of car accidents, and got stopped a couple of times by a officer (once speeding, and once for an expired tag) and not once did they notice that it did not match my presentation. Of course, I looked and acted like a woman. Most discrimination occurs because they person looks like a "man in a dress." Funny, but people find that a bit disturbing...
2. Be able to be called by the name and pronoun that matches your gender identity.
2. Be able to be called by the name and pronoun that matches your gender identity.
A trip to the probate judge's office took care of that. My legal name has been Jennifer for quite a while now.
3. Not be called a pervert because of your gender identity is different from what was assigned to you at birth.
3. Not be called a pervert because of your gender identity is different from what was assigned to you at birth.
Actually, for the vast majority of transgender people they are called a pervert for exactly the opposite reason. Their gender identity is male, and very obviously so, but they insist on dressing as, and pretending to be, a woman.
4. Not be bullied, sexually exploited, [abused] because you express your gender identity.
4. Not be bullied, sexually exploited, [abused] because you express your gender identity.
This is not because you express your "gender identity." This is because of behaving in a manner that invites such abuse. Funny, I have never had this experience because, well, I have not put myself in that position. And on the rare occasion someone has tried to go there, I have let them know it was not going to happen.
5. Not be labeled “psychotic” because of your gender expression.
Maybe if you tried not acting like someone who is psychotic, it might help. Believe me, the one's I have labeled as psychotic were not seen that way because of gender expression, though more than a few have tried to use their "gender expression" as an excuse for their behavior.
6. Be able to use certain facilities, such as the bathroom or locker room, and feeling safe and not be called a pervert, pedophile, or a rapist.
Guess what? If you are being called a pervert, pedophile, or a rapist in the bathroom or locker room then you might want to get a clue and stay OUT OF THE LADIES ROOM until you are presentable enough to not cause people to be upset. When I started my transition I never dreamed of just forcing my way into the ladies bathroom like, well like a pervert. I eased into it, cautiously, until I felt confident that I was not going to cause a riot. And if you have not had FULL SEX REASSIGNMENT SURGERY, then you have NO business being in a locker room. It may be inconvenient. It may seen fair to you. But really, you walk around in a locker room where I am with your penis hanging out, and well, I carry pepper spray. Your face, and an area that is clearly very precious are both getting a shot,
7. Your masculinity or femininity not be challenged because of your gender identity or trans status.
Maybe if you actually made an effort to appear as, and assimilate as, the gender you claim to identify with.... Ah, but they mention "trans status." You see, they want, so to speak, to have their cake and eat it too. They don't REALLY identify as women. They want to force society to accept them as something they are not, and then they complain when people object.
8. Not be told that you are not man enough or woman enough because your genitalia does not “match” with your gender identity.
Maybe you should get a clue and stop trying to tell people that "women have penises." If your gender identity is really what you say it is, then why aren't you seeking to correct it, and being patient until you achieve that goal.
9. Be able to walk down the street and not be targeted and be called a prostitute by the police because of your gender identity/trans experience.
You know, this is a lot less likely to happen if a) you dress like a normal woman, and b) you are not hanging out in an area where prostitutes are. Funny, I have never once been accused of such, and I used to do outreach to transgender sex workers.
10. Being able to go to the DMV and not legally be called the improper title (sir, madam, etc.) because of inaccurate identification.
This is a bit weird. If you are going to the DMV, and it is not to update your identification then it strikes me that it is not the identification that is inaccurate.
11. Your birth certificate, the identity given to you at birth, matches your real identity and gender expression.
If you haven't had SRS then it should not be changed, and well, to be quite blunt, if you have not had SRS, and don't plan to, then it does match your real identity. Birth certificates have NOTHING to do with gender expression. If you have not changed your sex, you should not be able to change your birth certificate to lie about your sex.
12. Never having to go to court to prove who you are and get your id’s match your gender expression.
Well, boo hoo... If you don't want to do that, then don't. But don't call it cisgender privilege to not have to.
13. Be able to see people in the media who matches your gender identity who are not depicted as perverts, psychotic murderers, or the comic-relief/butt-end of jokes.
Okay, this shows what is really going on. I see people in the media all the time that match my gender identity. They are called WOMEN!!! I would venture that about 50% of the people on TV are in that group. So, what this kook who wrote this article is really saying and what puts the lie to all the rest, is that his gender identity is not really female, it is "trans." He identifies as a dude pretending to be a woman, and complains that TV shows don't feature such people.
14. See a medical doctor anywhere who understands your health needs.
This has nothing to do with privilege, it is just a matter of choosing wisely.
15. Be able to undress in any designated safe space matching your gender identity without anyone seeing you as a threat, a sexual predator, or a freak.
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If you have a penis, stay out of the women's dressing area. You have no business being there. It is a safe space because people like that, who DO NOT HAVE A FEMALE GENDER IDENTITY ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE THERE!!!!
16. Have access to medications and surgeries you need for your health, safety, and overall well-being and have it be covered by medical insurance.
Again, this has nothing to do with being "transgender." It is a problem for a lot of people.
17. Find clothes easily and readily that matches your gender identity and expression.
Huh? What, you mean like pantyhose with a place for you penis to fit into? If you claim to be a woman, you should have no problem finding clothes. If you claim to be a man, again, plenty of clothes. Shoot, you can even find unisex stuff. So, what is the problem?
18. Have a formal title, such as Mr., Ms., Mrs., Miss, that matches your gender identity and expression.
Again, it is clear that your gender identity is "none of the above." So, don't be surprised if people have issues with you...
19. Being able to express your gender identity without the threat of being fired.
Try no insisting on dressing up in a manner that will upset your fellow employees and the customers.
20. Be able to join circles of men or women without the threat of being “exposed” and being harassed, shunned, bashed, and violently not accepted.
Well, since the person who wrote this clearly does not seem to identify as man or woman, that seems to be the cuase of rhis problem.
21. Not having to hear from parents “when you were a girl/boy then...” when you never identified as the gender given to you.
Cut your parents some slack. This is hard enough on them. If they are will to speak of your former sex in past tense, you are doing better than many....
22. Not be told you were selfish for not wanting to wear that dress/suit because it did not match your gender expression.
Again, people need time to adjust. And yes, you might well actually be selfish...
23. Not have to come out to your parents, family, friends, and/or loved ones.
Then don't choose to be transgender. And if you really are transsexual, sorry but that is part of the condition.
24. Be able to dress without having “tuck away” or “bind” anything.
Yes, just proudly have your penis erect under your dress... After all, you are mighty fond of it.
25. Being comfortable in and not giving thought to a gender binary.
If you are not, then work to become so. If you don't want to, stop complaining.
Yes, this offers a great insight into what this is REALLY all about. It is not a matter of need, but of choice. And they want to force themselves on others. They don't want to be women, they want to force people to abandon reality and make us accept and approve of their perversion.
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Now, this post makes a lot of sense, especially this:
"4. Not be bullied, sexually exploited, [abused] because you express your gender identity.
....This is not because you express your "gender identity." This is because of behaving in a manner that invites such abuse."
I have assimilated well into the male role, culture, whatever because I just go about life. I never disclose my status on job apps, to new friends,new doctors, and basically never discuss it, however I do help coordinate support groups for other guys because I feel it's important that they have access to resources and can meet people who transitioned successfully. I see all the time "trans-people" will invite abuse by outing themselves in a confrontational manner, dressing as "hoes," freaking out in bathrooms, talking like Mickey Mouse, and so on. This behavior is unacceptable for anyone, regardless of their gender/social/medical history. Sure, I think it sucks that anyone would be rude or abusive to another person, but when someone is a provocative victim, what can they expect? My favorite story is when someone who showed up to court in a sequined dress and bad wig for a name/gender change and assaulted the judge for denying it. That being said, I'm not so hard on those who don't get genital surgery due to being poor or having health problems that contraindicate surgery. If a person honestly tries to make an effort to look and act like the gender they strive to be until the day when they can afford or be healthy enough for surgery, it's totally okay. Also, surgery doesn't always help--there are some tranny-wigs out there who get surgery but are still nuts.
Hmmm, as I recall, you are a devotee of Mr. "Cristan" Williams who seems to think the sort of behavior you describe is normal for "women."
Maybe there is some hope....
Yes, in some cases, it is far too easy to get surgery if you have more money than sense. Most, however, would never give up their penis... Some doctors, like one I can think of who is trans identified, do not really do much in the way of screening at all. And too many therapists are just rubber stamps.
Keep in mind, the vast, overwhelming majority of people who identify as transgender do not want surgery. They want to be girls with penises, or men with vaginas.
Cris and I are friends but that doesn't mean we have to agree on everything. She works with homeless and impoverished individuals so pretty much has to be welcoming of all the people she serves. This is like the support groups I lead. Some "gender queer" people come in and I have to be as welcoming of them as everyone else, although I don't support their views and lifestyle.
I meant to add, it's still rude to call Cristan "him," as it comes across as just plain mean and unnecessary. As far as men with vaginas, FtM surgery essentially creates a non-functioning, deformed sausage thing and is overpriced. Until that changes, I'd much rather spend this kind of money on a new house. It doesn't mean I am opposed to surgery, it just means that I don't like the current choices, as do most ftms. In the past 15 years, I've only met one ftm who had surgery and although it's the most recent/advanced surgery, it still looks like a deformed sausage and he can't have orgasms anymore.
I worked, at one time, with a research project targeting "transgender" people. That is where much of my views developed from. I pretty much am willing, within limits, to let people live their own lives, but I draw the line when they start violating the rights of others. Women have a right to feel secure and safe in the restroom, and demanding that a bunch of men in dresses be allowed to invade, because it is their "right" simply because they claim to "really be women" is absurd. I worked with people who think like Mr. Williams. They are extremists, who have no regard for real rights, just ones they want to force others to accept.
I honestly do not see "Cristan" Williams as anything except a very disturbed man, with some crackpot ideas that he is determined to shove down society's throat, and especially that of women.
As to FTM surgery, I understand the situation, and I am not suggesting that FTMs have to have the crude, surgery that exists. But, there is the option of a medioplasty, which while less than perfect, does create a functional penis, that is both erectile and sensate. A full blow phalloplasty, I agree, is rarely worth bothering with. I have seen photos of some that were exceptions, but that is rare.
I guess a better choice of words would have been "pregnant men." I'm sorry, if you choose to get pregnant, and still claim to be a man....well, I'm sorry, but no. I don't buy it.
The first transsexual I personally knew was an FTM. We discussed the issue of surgery, and while he had both top surgery, and a complete hysterectomy, he had not had a phalloplasty, and I did not blame him. He was considering the medioplasty, but sadly he died before he was able. Smoking is not a good idea, period...
Jennifer sums my view up in the paragraph that says, "Yes, this offers a great insight into what this is REALLY all about. It is not a matter of need, but of choice. And they want to force themselves on others. They don't want to be women, they want to force people to abandon reality and make us accept and approve of their perversion."
This is why I have a very negative opinion of transsexuals and the transgendered (perhaps more so with transsexuals); anyway, I don't feel any such animosity about gay people or any other faction of people really. Every transsexual I've encountered has seemed selfish, and obsessed with passing themselves off as something they are not, without understanding how uncomfortable, or even offensive, it can be for those honestly going about their heterosexuality. I don't want to get in their or put them down, but I'm also not interested in being an involuntary participant in some person's trials, to measure their progress along the transition path; I don't want want to be gendered-fooled, or creeped out, every time a tranny needs to re-affirm their gender lie and searches to regain self-esteem; this appears to be a constant and never-ending behavior pattern, and it feels like an attack to te unsuspecting; i know they just want to be normal, but it is the very selfishness of insisting that the world pretend they are, that I find so offensive and dishonest. I wish those with any kind of "outside the norm" sexual or gender situation, would accept their unique situation. Nobody should expect cruel treatment of course. I think that homosexuals and transsexuals, in their obsession with their own condition, don't always appreciate that every human being is going through the struggle for identity, esteem, and while maybe to a less severe degree, also trying to fit in and normalize, those parts of us that are "different" than we think is the norm.
Jennifer sums my view up in the paragraph that says, "Yes, this offers a great insight into what this is REALLY all about. It is not a matter of need, but of choice. And they want to force themselves on others. They don't want to be women, they want to force people to abandon reality and make us accept and approve of their perversion."
This is why I have a very negative opinion of transsexuals and the transgendered (perhaps more so with transsexuals); anyway, I don't feel any such animosity about gay people or any other faction of people really. Every transexual I've encountered has seemed selfish, and obsessed with passing themselves off as something they are not, without understanding how uncomfortable, or even offensive, it can be for those honestly going about their heterosexuality. I don't want to get in their or put them down, but I'm also not interested in being an involuntary participant in some person's trials, to measure their progress along the transition path; I don't want want to be gendered-fooled, or creeped out, every time a tranny needs to re-affirm their gender lie and searches to regain self-esteem; this appears to be a constant and never-ending behavior pattern, and it feels like an attack to te unsuspecting; i know they just want to be normal, but it is the very selfishness of insisting that the world pretend they are, that I find so offensive and dishonest. I wish those with any kind of "outside the norm" sexual or gender situation, would accept their unique situation. Nobody should expect cruel treatment of course. I think that homosexuals and transsexuals, in their obsession with their own condition, don't always appreciate that every human being is going through the struggle for identity, esteem, and while maybe to a less severe degree, also trying to fit in and normalize, those parts of us that are "different" than we think is the norm.
Actually, Famousde, you apparently are a clueless idiot. Transsexuals have a medical condition and are just trying to bring their body and mind into alignment. It has proven impossible to change the mind, so correcting the body is the only choice. When I was transitioning I was accused of being "selfish". Funny, I have heard the same thing said about about people with life-threatening diseases. What you actually mean is, you are selfish because you don't want to be bothered. No, I was not selfish. I just wanted to stop hurting. I did, and now I can do for others.
Hi, Jennifer, I agree with Famousde. It's a mental illness just like other mental illnesses and people need therapy and medications. Your medical condition cannot be solved by aligning your body with your brain as your brain is at fault. God doesn't make gender mistakes. I hope you find treatment that is helpful, and I'm glad my home state of Alabama refuses to commit fraud and identify you as a woman. You will never be a woman-just as I will never be a man. Accept it and rejoice in it or spend your life being sucked into the illness you keep promoting and forcing others to accept as reality.
Ah, the old "God doesn't make mistakes..." trope. No, He doesn't. But He does ALLOW them. There is abundant evidence that transsexualism has a physical basis. Just as some are born intersex, some are born transsexual. There are no drugs or psychotherapy cures for this. Now, you can act like a Pharisee and put your personal prejudices above charity, or you can accept that we live in a fallen world and thank God that He has given doctors the wisdom to help those who really need it.
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