So the question you really need to ask yourself is this: Is your psychological damage from gender dysphoria greater than the psychological damage that its restoration will inflict upon the lives of any (or all) of your children? If the answer is yes, proceed. If the answer is no, don’t do it. Your sadness is tragic, but at least it’s confined to yourself. This advice might seem reactionary, but it’s not a position on whether transitioning is ethical in and of itself. There’s no inherent ethical problem with that decision. It’s about the possibility of improving one life at a greater cost to three others who might lack the intellectual and emotional maturity to comprehend what’s really happening.Of course, this will not sit well with the transgender extremists who will insist that he should transition without regrets or apologies. At least a couple have already objected to the advice given., here and here.
But, the columnist raises some good points. This person has a happy married life, and a satisfying career. This is not a person who has been tormented all of his life by gender issues. It is almost certainly yet another aging crossdresser who wants to increase the thrills.
I made my second, and final major transition a bit later in life. My first ended because of stress over issues that were not directly related to transition. My life improved greatly, and I maintain a good relationship with my ex and my child. But they understood my need. It was not easy for them, and there were periods of strain, and there are still occasional issues, but they do understand that it helped me.
Sadly, this is not always the case, but the kooks keep pushing people to move forward.