Thursday, September 12, 2013

What's the Difference?

I am often attacked by the "gender fascists," i.e. the transgender extremists like Mr. "Cristan" Williams, Mr. "Autumn" Sandeen, Mr. "Dana" Taylor, and others because I don't care for the term "transgender," refuse to accept it, and especially because I am constantly challenging the silliness that they spew...  Silliness like claiming that simply saying one is a woman magically makes it so.

On those occasions, for example when dealing with a medical provider where I have to reveal my history, I am sometimes asked, "What's the difference?" when I explain that I am transsexual, not transgender.  That's a good question, and while I usually respond with a relatively technical answer, of late other differences have become obvious.

For example, there was the rather silly article posted by Mr. Williams that asks "What are the top 3 things you like about being trans?"  I cannot think of a better illustration of the difference between actually being a transsexual, and being some kook who identifies as "transgender."  For me, there was NOTHING I liked about being "transsexual."  If I had a choice, it would certainly not to have been born transsexual.  My first choice would have been to be born a normal female.  If not that, then my second choice would have been to have been a normal male.   I certainly would not have chosen to be born transsexual.  If I liked "being trans" I would certainly not have put so much effort into having SRS.

Of course, the person asking this question is a man, who either has not had SRS, or if he has, regrets it.  He revels in being "transgender."  It is his entire purpose in life.  For him, it is a choice, not a medical condition.  I would no more choose to be transsexual, than I would choose to be diabetic.  I would not more find something good in being transsexual as I would find something good about being diabetic.

No, I haven't gotten to see life from "both sides."  I never had "the best of both worlds."  I was miserable for much of my life.  I hurt people I care about. 

Another difference that has become very obvious is how we deal with disagreement.  I recognize that a lot of radical; feminists would reject the idea that I am a woman.  Shoot, I have known that since I first read Janice Raymond's The Transsexual Empire back around the time I began transition.  I certainly did agree with Raymond's extremist views, but I also did not feel the apparent blind rage that seems to consume transgender extremists who cannot seem to deal with such disagreement.  The Internet is becoming filled with their calls for the rape and murder of women who simply don't wish to sleep with them.  

I do find it interesting that I can get along with many of those women, even if I don't agree with everything they say.  Then again, I seriously doubt that the kooks like Mr. Sandeen, Mr. Williams, and Mr. Taylor have much in the way of friendship with women born women.  They certainly spend a lot of time attacking them online.

Even if I don't agree with what someone writes, I am willing to listen, and try to find common ground.  I consider Victory Brownworth a friend.  Mr. Williams seems to have become obsessed with destroying her.  As best I can tell, the real motivation for this is the simple fact that Ms. Brownworth does not think men like Mr. Williams should be able to attend the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival.  Mr. Williams, really does not like being told no.  So, Mr. Williams has repeated attack her, accused her of horrible crimes, and then he wonders why people think him something of a kook.

When I began transition, a major concern fo me was to not cause discomfort to other women.  For the kooks like Mr. Williams, Mr. Sandeen, an Mr. Taylor, the feelings of women are inferior to their fetish-driven desires.  If a woman is upset at the idea of sharing a shower or other space with a "transwoman" with an intact penis, she is at fault and she must submit to the tyranny of the transgender kooks.  Before my surgery, the idea of exposing myself to a woman like that would have been horrifying.

Yes, there are major differences.


Autumn Sandeen said...

Keep writing about me; keep engaging me. And then tonight, after first engaging me in this tweet, following up by telling me I'm stalking you when I wrote I want to have a meeting with you in front of one of your pastors...well, if you don't want my attention, follow the edict of Luke 6:31 and stop writing about me; stop engaging me.

Your practice of Christian faith is what I'm addressing. You claim to be a Christian, and you're a lay leader at an affirming church. But then at the same time you tag me in over 130 of your posts, misgender me, and put my first name in scare quotes.

Why are you afraid to own that behavior before me and one of your pastors in the brick-and-mortar world? I don't want to meet you alone, I want a third party from the leadership of your church to discuss your behavior in terms of you being a lay leader in an affirming church when you not only aren't affirming me, but are apparently seeking to harm me emotionally.

Be brave. Meet me with a third party from your church in the room. Call me "he" and "him" not only online, but in the presence of one of your church's clergy.

And just so you know, I never would want to meet you in a room without a third party being in the room. Your daughter called you physically violent -- I wouldn't trust you to not be physically violent with me unless a third party was in the room.

Just Jennifer said...

To be clear, and for the record, I have tried, repeatedly, to make it clear to Mr. Sandeen that I do NOT with to have physical contact with him, and yet he persists in trying to force this. Again, I will not be bullied into silence by him, but I will also not tolerate his attempts to force me into a physical confrontation. I consider that to be threatening behavior.

Mr. Sandeen is an atheist and his attempts to challenge my faith are disingenuous in the extreme.

Again, I am not going to have physical contact with him. If he approached me, I would take steps to defend myself, up to and including using non-lethal force. I am not going to meet him alone, or in the presence of anyone. A third party is not necessarily protection.

To be clear, if he persists in trying to force an encounter, I will report him to the authorities:

SEC. 2. Section 1708.7 of the Civil Code is amended to read:

A person is liable for the tort of stalking when the plaintiff proves all of the following elements of the tort:
The defendant engaged in a pattern of conduct the intent of which was to follow, alarm, or harass the plaintiff. In order to establish this element, the plaintiff shall be required to support his or her allegations with independent corroborating evidence.
As a result of that pattern of conduct, the plaintiff reasonably feared for his or her safety, or the safety of an immediate family member. For purposes of this paragraph, "immediate family" means a spouse, parent, child, any person related by consanguinity or affinity within the second degree, or any person who regularly resides, or, within the six months preceding any portion of the pattern of conduct, regularly resided, in the plaintiff's household.
One of the following:
The defendant, as a part of the pattern of conduct specified in paragraph (1), made a credible threat with the intent to place the plaintiff in reasonable fear for his or her safety, or the safety of an immediate family member and, on at least one occasion, the plaintiff clearly and definitively demanded that the defendant cease and abate his or her pattern of conduct and the defendant persisted in his or her pattern of conduct.

TaTK said...

"Even if I don't agree with what someone writes, I am willing to listen, and try to find common ground."

And evidently, ungender them and disrespect their identity entirely.

Why should anyone buy that you're a "Real transsexual" and not others exactly?

Just Jennifer said...

"ungender? Well, that's a new one...

You know, I really don't buy into the magic thinking that says that claiming to identify as something makes you that, so no, I don't respect that, especially in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary.

And quite frankly, I don't tell anyone what to think. Then again, I don't generally have to.