Disagreement is NOT Hatred

One of the classic tactics of the transgender extremist kooks is to scream "hate" if someone so much as even slightly disagrees with them.  It happens all, the time, and yesterday, it popped up in a comment that got blocked for a violation of the one rule I have about commenting on this blog.  But I did want to address the foolishness expressed by Mr. "Jacqueline" Waters.

He starts off with an incredibly stupid bit of drivel…

If you look like a woman and you go in the mens room you are going to get harrassed and possibly abused and raped. I realize you hate transgender people just like many Jews hate jews.

Let's see…  Stupidity, mixed with lies, tossed with a nice Godwin's Law violation.  Yes, we have a classic bit of transgender silliness here.  Actually, you are going to get some shocked looks, and possibly someone trying to be helpful and tell you "Ma'am, you are in the wrong rest room."  Maybe in a bit of panic on the part of some poor guy who wonders just which of you made the mistake.  I know, from personal experience.  The last time I visited a men's room before I began living as myself full time, some poor gentleman looked absolutely aghast that a woman was in the men's room.  Not too long before that incident, I had a helpful employee on another occasion stop me and say, "Ma'am, your going into the wrong restroom…"  Fun times…

Now, quite frankly, Mr. Waters might be harassed because he looks a bit effeminate, but that is another matter.  No one is going to mistake him for a woman in either the men's room, or the women's room.  Of course, I realize he does face a dilemma and is going to cause problems in either.  Of course, causing problems is one of the thrills that transgender kooks seek.

Now, I don't appreciate garbage like what Mr. Waters spewed.  I had a dear friend who was a Holocaust survivor, and I don't like it when people toss around comments like that.  Besides, I honestly don't hate anyone.  I don't wish anyone to suffer harm, including rape.  But if one is engaged in deviant behavior, and pretending to be a member of the wrong gender, which is at the heart of the transgender lifestyle (i.e. men pretending to be women, or women pretending to be men) one does risk upsetting the wrong people.

He then goes on to make the false claim that I am "an advocate for rape of transgender people," and that I am one who "applauds for every name read on TDOR you now since you find we are not 'real women'…"  Uh, all I can say is, "Wow, talk about delusional…"  Actually, again, I don't delight in anyone's death.  And I have never advocated anyone getting raped.  People who are close to me have been victims of rape, and I find such comments highly offensive.  Mr. Waters is simply one sick fool to even suggest such a thing, but this does show the silliness of the transgender mindset.

And finally, he shows his complete ignorance, and blind believe in the rants of Mr. "Diane" Lask when he makes a comment about "the so called surgery you claim you have had with no break in posting for long enough to ever have a surgery like that and recover."  I would suggest he pop over to Google Groups, take a look at the newsgroup postings for February of 2006, and he might notice that I talked about my surgery coming up, and that I didn't post for some time.  I was in the hospital for a week, without Internet access (I asked before I went in…) and then because I had moved to a new unit in the building where I lived at the time on the day before I went in for surgery, it was another couple of weeks before my Internet was back up.  I got some support, and more than a bit of crap from the usual trolls at that time.  Oh well…it was something I did for myself, and no one else.  It is kind of amusing to go back and read some of the crap posted back then.  According to the trolls, I died (several times apparently), was on suicide watch, and "jumped the gurney."  It is kind of ironic that it is now claimed that I was posting the whole time people were asking where I was…

Actually, having SRS is a very profound experience.  I took a while before I felt up to dealing with both hooking up my Internet connection, and reading the crap I knew some would post.  When I was ready, I found it all quite laughable, then, and even more so now.

My advice to Mr. Waters, and the rest of the kooks at Shame On You Transgender Edition is to simply face the fact that you are not transsexuals, you are not "women," you will never be transsexual, you will always be transvestites (at best), and be proud of what you are, and stop trying to force your silliness on others.

And a footnote:  This is the 400th article on my blog…  A minor milestone, I suppose, but one worth a brief mention...

A Quick Recap...

Well, after a lovely evening with friends, I returned home to find several interesting developments….

First, before taking off, I had listened to Mr. and Ms. Cummings, uh, "radio" show (basically a rather lame podcast on a web site).  They couldn't even seem to agree on exactly where they stood on crap like the silliness at the Academy Awards, with Mr. Cummings wanting to take a bit more extremist stand than Ms. Cummings.  Then, they were no doubt a bit pissed to discover a post on their blog from one of their comrades in insanity that contradicted everything that Ms. Cummings tried to push.  That post was removed….

Mr. Waters posted a rather silly rant in response to my article on his absurd article on bathrooms, and even was so silly as to try to cover up his obvious admission he is non-op.  Yes, it is clear he is non-op, but when confronted with it, he realizes the truth and tries to weasel out.  

Worse, he shows he is not remotely a transsexual, making remarks about how he assumes I was "upset about having a small (sic) clitoris).  Actually, I was rather thankful, prior to SRS, that I had a very small penis.  I hated what I had, and would have been a lot more dysphoric had I been well endowed.  I wasn't.  I imagine, based on his remarks, Mr. Waters is rather fond, and proud of his manhood.  I hated mine, and got rid of it, rather than clinging to it for dear life, and yes, as a matter of fact, that is part of what makes me a woman.  And what indicates Mr. Waters is a man.

Mr. Waters tries to make me feel bad, but again shows how he doesn't get it.  I am NOT a part of his "community."  So, I could care less if a bunch of kooks, like him, hate me, I have a lot of friends in the real world.  And he obviously hasn't followed me on Twiiter….which might prove very enlightening to him.  Actually, I am one of those people who is very hard to label, which drives simple minded fools like Mr. Waters, and his friends, a bit crazy.  Feminist?  Not in the sense he imagines…  Certainly NOT transgender…. Conservative?  No…  Liberal?  Again, not really…  He can't pin me down, pigeon hole me, and that makes him confused, and angry.  

He tries to make an issue out of an imaginary sexual assault that happened locally…(yes, imaginary…the truth has come out, it was all a LIE) and well, I guess he looks kind of foolish.  

And no, Mr. Slingen, I haven't had any problem reading the blog….  No problem at all.

Out, Loud, Proud, and Yet...Making Excuses

I always get a bit of a chuckle when a "non-op" starts making excuses and trying to explain how they are "just as much of a woman" as a post-op, and how having a penis does not make them a man, and how they would have the surgery, but...

I mean, they tell us how "out, loud, and proud" they are, but then they start up with lame excuses.  The simple face is, they are not transsexuals (transsexuals change their sex), they are really not women (women don't want to have a penis attached to their body), and they are apparently not really all that proud (since they have to make an excuse for not being a transsexual or a woman...

The latest example of this comes from one of the kooks at Shame on You Transgender Edition in the guise of a rant about bathrooms.  Yes, another member of the "NPA" (the National Penis Association whose motto is "You will take my penis when you pry my cold dead fingers from it...." who is trying to tell us how he is "not really a man," has every right to invade the ladies room (in spite of being quite obviously male...and unable to pass by his own admission) and that he does not need surgery.  He even tries to shame anyone who would point out this fact...

Yes, a person who calls himself "Jacqueline" Waters has posted a rant about bathrooms.  In it, he drags out the usual lame tropes...and shows the usual lack of understanding so common among transgender extremists...

You see there is a whole faction of people (even within our own community) that think that GENDER and SEX are the same thing, when clearly they are NOT the same thing.

We all know the problem, but what I don't understand is the reasoning. You see there is one camp that thinks that gender is based on parts. Well that gets a bit crazy when you start looking at just the cis gender group now doesn't it? Are you telling me that a woman who has had a hysterectomy is no longer a female?

Uh, no one is remotely claiming such a thing...  This, of course, is a classic straw man argument.  Make up something no one has said, and then "refute" it.  Just wait, he will repeat this again... 

What about someone who has had cancer and has had a double mastectomy? Is she suddenly NOT a woman? You know since the qualification is on parts.

  And again... 

On the other hand what about that soldier who was deployed and ran across an IED (Improvised Explosive Device) who managed to survive but has lost everything below the waist? Yes, such persons exist. Is this person now no longer a man because he lost his male sex organs to shrapnel? Is he now a woman? 

 And again...

What about a victim of Lorena Bobbit? If a man gets his unit cut off is he now a woman suddenly? See, when you start looking at this the whole notion that parts= gender becomes quite silly now doesn't it?

And again...

And each time, he misses several important points.  First off, he is trying to claim that sex and gender are not the same thing.  Most agree on this...  Sex is, as they say, what is between your legs, and gender is what is between your ears.  Except, well, in both cases it is about sexual differentiation, and it is based on hormones.  And, it is related.  You see, if your brain really is female, you will not feel comfortable with male genitalia.  You like your penis...you want to keep your penis...you are not driven by a strong need to be rid of your penis....you are a man, baby!

This, of course, is why women who lose their breasts, and men who lose their penises, don't suddenly "change sex."  Their brain is still what it was before.  And, more importantly, this is why the men in dresses crowd, like Mr. Waters here, and his compadres at Shame on You Transgender Edition will never be women (well, except for Ms. "Mark" Cummings, who will never be a man...  They have male brains, and they show it, over and over, and over...

And then he drags out the next transgender trope...

Then there is this unfounded notion that a bunch of men will slap on dresses just so they can take a peek at ladies in the restroom. Really?

Yes, really...

 A man is under arrest accused of violently attacking a woman inside a Clairemont Big Lots store. 

The attack took place Saturday. The woman says she was in the store's bathroom when the suspect, wearing a pink Barbie costume, attacked her.

That was in Mr. "Autumn" Sandeen's hometown, San Diego...I wonder if it was one of his buddies?

Perhaps he might want to rethink his position...

do you really think sexual predators are stopped because the sign says women? Do you think they would go through the trouble and embarrassment of going out in public in a dress just to take a peek at your vajayjay? Come on now, what fantasy world do you live in and btw what is stopping them from doing exactly that right now and how many cases has this happened in?

And there are other cases, such as the pervert "Colleen" Francis, registered sex offender "Paula" Witherspoon in Dallas, Texas just to name two more. 

Sexual predators aside, there is also the simple question of privacy.  Women don't want men in the bathroom with them.  And if, like Mr. Waters here, you have a penis, and you want to keep it, and especially if you are going to be SEEN as a man, you should just stay the hell out.

The reality is in every single instance that I have been misgendered not a single one of those people know what is or what is not in my undies. Nobody has ever sir's me one time based on what may or may not be between my legs..nobody has ever asked to see it before making up in their mind whether or not I am male or female....go figure.

Of course, in reality, "misgendering" Mr. Waters would mean calling him a "female," but I realize that he is not interested in reality.  Obviously, he is not going to, shall we say, "fit in" while visiting the ladies room...  But, he then goes on to make this absurdly clueless remark...

Another absurd idea is that Trans women who are non operative are suddenly going to be slinging out their dongs in semi private places like dressing rooms and bathrooms? REALLY?

Well, I hate to break it to him, but yes, he has happened, as in the case of the pervert "Colleen" Francis, and another well documented case from Canada, where a "trans woman" with a full on erection was bothering an older woman.  A case that, in spite of Mr. "Cristan" Williams' attempts to cover it up, has proven quite true.

Now, having made all these arguments, lame as they are, he finally gets down to the nitty-gritty of it.  He has a penis, he wants to keep it, and well, there are excuses to be made.

Also it is not always due to the cost as many have mentioned some would not have the surgery even if it were free. This is true..because often times it is not NECESSARY. Often people who have the surgery only do it because of these old laws and pressure from others in the community or society, not because they personally have that big of a problem having the extra appendage.

Okay, let's be clear on some things here...  Anyone who has SRS because "of these old laws and pressure from others in the community or society, not because they personally have that big of a problem having the extra appendage," is a fool.  Actually, while such a thing is possible, I would not remotely say it is often.  I agree, Mr. Waters should not have SRS.  He clearly does not need it or want it, and even if he had it, it would not make him a woman.  It would make him a very miserable man, albeit one with a vagina. 

And then he goes on to make more excuses...

These surgeries are life threatening like any other surgery, it is major and evasive and not to be taken lightly. Over 50% of the people who have the surgery can never ever orgasm again for the rest of their lives and the results typically (sometimes it is ok) rarely are satisfactory as far as appearance as well. There is still a LONG way to go before it is perfected if it ever will be and the risks are still extremely high. 

No, they are not life-threatening.  Yes, death is a risk with ANY surgery, even something simple.  Yes, there is a small risk of losing the ability to orgasm (nowhere NEAR 50%), and the claim that the results are rarely satisfactory as far as appearance is totally a lie.  We get it, Mr. Waters, you don't want surgery, and again, I agree, you SHOULDN'T HAVE SURGERY!!!!  You are a man, and having it would be a disaster for you.  But please, cut the crap...and stop lying.  Clearly, you don't want, don't need it, but deep down, you also know, you are not really a woman, and you can't stand that others, who you see as the same, are.

Get over it...

End Game

After wasting far too much time, the curtain has come down, at least for the moment, on the gang of extremists I have been tangling with.  The whole thing began when I responded to a post on a relatively new blog aimed at "shaming" transgender people back into line.  The blog was started by a couple of massive egos that are the strangest pair of kooks I have encountered in some time.  Mr. "Jessica Lynn" Cummings is a classic non-op autogynephilic type who met a egotistical FTM equivalent, Ms. "Mark Angelo" Cummings.  And they decide to become a couple.  Now, this is not really new, FTM/MTF couples, while rare, are not unheard of.  I remember one being featured on the TV show "That's Incredible" many years ago.  But this one is particularly strange, because both are pretty much classic "transgender extremists," making a big deal out of being non-op.  Mr. Cummings still has his penis, so he and his wife, "Mark" can have intercourse in the usual way….I am sure Blanchard and Bailey would have a field day with this one….

Anyway, I responded to an article on the "transgender hierarchy," in which pointed out, as an aside, that I do not accept the label "transgender" and they went ballistic.  And, as I wrote about in my last article, they resorted to censorship, but then backed off…somewhat surprisingly, but they also went on the offensive, finally tracking down the crap that the cyberstalker who calls himself "Diane" Lask has been pushing for years.  And of course, they were just thrilled.  They thought that I would curl up a die, or something.

Hey, like I said, it is all lies, and pretty obviously so.  

In any case, "Mark" who isn't the brightest bulb in the bunch, FINALLY, after twice having posts blocked here for violating the One Rule, figured out that, "DUH!" he could do the same thing,  Now, he has resorted to moderating posts, so he can prevent me from embarrassing them.  

In the end, it got downright hilarious.  One of this gang of idiots, a very masculine transgender from Canada, who fancies himself a "writer" (he vanity published a book) even went so far as to post threats of violence…why do they always want to resort to stalking?  This is copied, verbatim…and is by the "writer" Mr. "Jacqueline" Waters.  I leave it to my readers to decide for yourself if this sounds like a woman?  Or like some insane drag queen?

And honey, no man here and I will out bitch slap the fuck out of you any day. You see, I don;t mind flying anywhere at anytime to deal face to face with any cunt..I will even show you my pussy while I am there so you can come back and apologize for how stupid you really are.

 So if you would like to set up a meeting so we can discuss matters in person, just let me know. Other than that shut your pie hole (no doubt the only hole you have besides the one in your head where a brain is supposed to be located).

Unlike you, I have a life and work to do that goes far above playing silly little games with a bitch boy keyboard commando troll.

 So when and where? Just let me know. If you live in a nice place I will come back and let everyone know they were wrong about you being poor and near homeless. I mean all this shit is easily resolved. You show me yours and I will show you mine ok? 

Aside from posting this after there is no way I can respond (which is probably why he posted it, since he is confident I wouldn't be able to take him up on it) this is almost hilarious. Now, I have no desire to invite some violent man to come visit me in San Francisco. I am certainly not going to allow some nut case associated with this band of lunatics to gather private information, like where I live, and such. And I sure am not going to expose myself to some pervert.

But this, I fear, is a classic example of transgender mentality.  My feelings on the subject can be summed up in a post I made in response to an article defending "transgender ideology" there.  I responded directly to a could of statements in the article. Here is the cold, hard truth that finally pushed Ms. "Mark" over the edge…

"You expect to be properly identified and treated as any other woman (If you are Female-to-Male then the same logic will apply for you as a man.)"

And your answer to this is to publicly identify as something that clearly marks you as NOT be a woman (or a man, for the FTMs) at all. In spite of your silly claims (based on male-sexist concepts that only "drop-dead gorgeous" women…which is ironic at best for this bunch, matter) I live as a woman, not as a "trans woman." You can tell me what you think, but I know what I live.

"And for those transsexual extremists out there.... if you hate transgender so much, why spend all your time attacking the people who do feel comfortable with the term?" 

When you stop trying to use us as your beards, when you stop demanding that society accept idiocy like "women have penises," and "men can become pregnant," when you stop advocating that just because some dude claims he feels like a woman, he has to be accepted as one, when you stop defending perverts like Colleen Francis, when you stop demanding the right of pre-op (who, if legitimate, would NEVER do such a thing) and so-called "non-op transsexuals" (an oxymoron) to be in women's spaces where nudity is likely, when you stop trying to get the right to change your birth certificate without actually changing your self (again, women do not have penises, and men cannot get pregnant) and especially when you state, without qualification or reservation, that ONLY people who self-identify as transgender should ever be referred to as transgender, then and ONLY THEN, will we stop attacking you. Until then, well you deserve to be made to fill like the extremists you are. And no, we won't "shut the hell up!" We will speak out, and oppose your extremism. And we will help bring about the coming backlash, and hopefully prevent if from consuming us along with you.

Time will tell what happens.  Ms. Cummings made a couple of threats that could come back to haunt him if he follows through, but as they say, "Spoilers, darling, spoilers…"  I will check that blog from time to time, as I do other transgender blogs, but since they have gone full blown censorship, I won't be posting there.  I think I have pretty much said all that is worth saying to them there anyway.