Monday, November 15, 2010

A Dog in the Manger

There is an ancient Greek fable, sometime attributed to Aesop, about a  dog lying in a manger who could not eat the hay but who nevertheless prevented the other animals from being able to eat it either.   It is used as an idiom for someone who has no use for something, but seeks to prevent another from using it as well.


"Autumn" Sandeen has established himself as a classic example of a Dog in the Manger.  In his most recent diatribe on Pam's House Blend he complains about how his ex-wife, who apparently has nothing to do with him, is seeking an annulment of their marriage from the Roman Catholic Church.


Now, for those who are not familiar with the practices of Catholicism, if one is divorced, and wishes to have their marriage sanctified by the sacrament of marriage in the Church, then the only choice is to have the previous marriage annulled.  There are certain situations where the church will hold that the previous marriage was not properly entered into, and the annulment is granted.


Most often, the grounds for the annulment is that one or both of the parties was too immature to enter into a valid sacrament of marriage.  Other grounds can include mental illness, a lack of intention to stay faithful or have children, deception and some other very technical reasons.


The simple, bottom line is, Mr. Sandeen's wife should have no problem getting such a decree.  But he is not willing for this to happen.  He intends to challenge his wife's effort.  Now, he claims that part of the reason is that he does not want his children from the marriage, who will have nothing to do with him, to be made "illegitimate."  However, a church annulment does not do that, legally, or in the eyes of the Roman Catholic Church.  He would have some claim to that if this were a legal proceeding, but not in this case.


No, the obvious reason his ex-wife would seeks an annulment is that she plans to remarry (or perhaps has already remarried) and wishes to have the church recognize the new marriage as sacramental.


And, just as obviously, Mr. Sandeen's ONLY real reason for opposing the annulment is to spite his wife, and perhaps is also a vain attempt to prevent her from being able to remarry.  Of course, there is no way that the church is going to deny the marriage.  His silly little tantrum is going to do nothing but given ignorant people another bit to use against transsexuals (though ironically, Mr. Sandeen is not remotely actually a transsexual.


Mr. Sandeen is one of those men who, sometime during puberty, developed a fetish for wearing women's clothes, with no real evidence of gender issues prior to that, who then, after a long period of living as a successful male, decides to take his little fetish to the next level, and became full time.  Then, he decided he would be a transsexual to gain higher standing as a "transgender."


Mr. Sandeen shows no desire to simply live as a woman.  He is an "out, loud, and proud" transgender.  He makes sure anyone and everyone knows his history, and in the past made it clear he had no desire to give up his penis.  He now claims to be surgery tracked, though he also tends to indicate that he will have surgery only when he can have it paid for.  In truth, I am sure if he does get it covered, he will find another excuse.


And adding to the silliness of Mr. Sandeen's claims is the comment by "Zoe Brain" the self-acclaimed "rocket scientist" who asserts, rather bizarrely that Mr. Sandeen's marriage was a "same-sex one, despite the fact that children resulted."  Now, that is ridiculous.  Mr. Sandeen had, and still has a penis.  His wife had a vagina, ovaries, and a uterus.  They had children, that were conceived from Mr. Sandeen's sperm, and his wife's eggs.  To remotely suggest such a marriage was a "same sex one" is totally false.  I guess they must have pretty low standards to be a "rocket scientist" down under.


Mr. Sandeen should be ashamed of acting so cruelly towards his ex-wife.  He should just let her seek her annulment, ignore it all, and go on with is little fantasies.  Seeking to deny her the ability to remarry is simply his being a dog in the manger.


And he should stop trying to speak for transsexuals.  

8 comments:

Not your friend said...

It's not surprising that Sandeen would want to deny his wife an annulment. He deceived her when they married in the first he has even said that in so many words.

He wants the attention he is over in DC making a fool out of himself now to get attention.

I'm sure someone from the church has read the post on PHB and has decided he is mentally ill and incapable of rational behavior.

Aria said...

The comments are amazing. One person stood up for the poor ex-wife, and was called a troll for her effort. Is it any wonder that as women we want nothing to do with the GLBT?

lisalee18wheeler said...

I get a headache and need extra tums whenever I go there. Can I stop now?

Aria said...

Did you see the latest from Sandeen? Announces "I am transgender. I have a female gender identity, breasts, and male genitalia." ...and then is just heartbroken to be separated from the men and women. Sure you are, you love this crap! What do you expect to happen when you say stupid things like that? This is a $@#! travesty!

This person lives to cause others trouble and be the center of attention. There is absolutely nothing transsexual about Sandeen.

lisalee18wheeler said...

I wonder when the federal government might get a clue and investigate Sandeen for inappropriate behavior. If she keeps getting arrested in a military uniform, they might get wise and pull her disability and benefits.

Not your friend said...

Sandeen doesn't have to worry about loosing sandeen's benefits, not with a 100% disability from the Nave that is mental disability by the way.

I think deep down Sandeen wants to become a martyr. I think there is this secret desire to have one of those white house guards shoot him so that his name will be forever remembered as some kind of hero.

With any luck someone in White House will pull a few strings and get Sandeen put in the loony bin for the rest of his natural life. Then two years down the road when Autumn's name is mentioned the reaction will be "Autumn who?"

That would do sandeen more damage to his ego than anything.

Zoë said...

Sandeen is a f'in loser.... Everyone bowing down to the Sandeen express and who cares about the ex... the ex must be wrong... pisses me off.

I bet she just wants to get on with her life as far away from Sandeen as possible. But, she can't cuz Sandeen is an ass and thinks of now one but Sandeen.

Just Jennifer said...

While Sandeen is not that likely to lose his benefits, there are certain rules about wearing a military uniform, and it does appear that he is in violation of them. Unfortunately, I don't see the current administration taking any action to deal with this.

There are specific rules. On the one hand, Sandeen, who is retired from the Navy, is allowed to wear the uniform consistent with his last service under certain circumstances. On the other hand, it is questionable if he is allowed to substitute a female uniform since that is not his proper uniform. Further, wearing it for a political protest is certainly against the rules.

Bottom line, he has violated the rules, and has brought shame on the uniform.