Recently, the hot topic on the LGBT blogs has been the shocking number of teenagers who have committed suicide as a result of bullying. Of course, the focus has been on attempting to portray this as something caused by the "right wing." But there is a problem with that. Bullying is nothing new. I was bullied as a child, as I imagine almost every transsexual was. And I have been bullied as an adult. The biggest difference is that the bullies today are "cyber-bullies" and are easily ignored. A kill file is a wonderful thing. They continue to rant, and I never see them. On the rare occasion someone responds to them, and quotes them, I have learned that they want to imagine that I am really still reading their hatred, which only shows just how disturbed they really are. But I digress.
There is no denying that there has been a rash of suicides linked to bullying. And as I said above, the LGBT blogs have been largely trying to make it sound like this is the fault of the Right...that nebulous bogey man that includes anyone who dares disagree with even the most radical of the LGBT. But what is really going on?
I will be the first to admit, I don't know the specific reason for all of this. I will start by pointing out that it is not limited to LGBT youth. Suicides related to bullying have increased overall. It is not an LGBT problem. And I don't believe it is caused by an increase in bullying. Bullying has always existed, probably as long as humans have been around. So, why is there this increase in suicides?
It is something that needs to be studied. It is a well established fact that suicides often seem to happen in clusters. It can become something of, dare I say it, a fad. I remember reading of a rash of suicides in one institution that began with someone hanging their self on a certain coat hook. After a number of men followed suit, the hook was removed, and the suicides stopped. In a similar manner, as teenage suicides resulting from bullying become publicized, other teenagers will feel the need to follow suit. And the more it happens, the more it is likely to happen.
And that is scary, What is worse, is that the LGBT blogs will probably continue to fuel this phenomena, if only because they will see this as a means to attack those they oppose. I fear that things will get far worse before they get better...and that is only if they get better. There have been a few attempts to fight back, but they have been rather weak. The scary thing is, the victims become martyrs for a cause, and this may even encourage others to see suicide as not only the answer, but as sort of honorable act. It isn't. The honorable act would be to stand up to the bullies and refuse to give in, And worse, the bullies don't seem to be shamed by causing someone's death. There have been cases where they even showed up at funerals to gloat.
Something very disturbing is going on. The most extreme of the LGBT blogs are trying to use the deaths of teenagers by suicide as a club to beat up anyone who disagrees with them. Somewhat predictably, Suzan Cooke has attempted to rewrite the past and claim that when she started her blog she "laid down the law to the 'HBS/Classic Transsexual; that their name calling wouldn’t be permitted on this blog." Never mind that we started her blog she tried to identify with the "HBS/Classic Transsexual." It was only after it became obvious that Cooke had become an apologist for the worst of the gender fascists that the "HBS/Classic Transsexual" began to reject her extremist positions and that she suddenly turned on those she used to align with.
Oh, and never mind that Cooke as been known to bully people quite a bit. I recall her attacking one post-op as a "skin transvestite" because that person stayed with her wife. That, apparently, was before Cooke took up with another post-op and was reborn as a long-time lesbian. But again, I digress.
Bullying happens on both sides of the political spectrum. And the term "bully" is often used as a club word. If they don't like it when someone speaks the truth, they just call that person a "bully." That way they can avoid dealing with facts. And sometimes the people quickest to call another a bully are the true bullies. I know of one well known net-kook, who has threatened me with being "outed," and who has even made actual attempts to cause me real harm off the Internet, who loves to scream bully when I stand up to him. And this same kook has gone after a number of others.
No, something is going on. And it is probably going to get worse. Part of the reason it will get worse is because others will try to take advantage of it. Part of the reason is because there are some real problems that need to be addressed. And part of the reason is simply that these things have to run their course.
I don't really have the answer. I do know it will have to involve teaching kids that suicide is not the answer. I know it will have to do with changing values. And I know that the answer, strange as it may seem, will not be to, to silence the bullies. First off, that won't work...and any attempt might make things worse, and second, as I said, there have always been bullies. Something else is going on.